Baby Name – How I Picked My Baby’s Name

Picking A Baby Name Is So Much Pressure

Picking a baby name is a big deal. Once you name it, it’s pretty much stuck like that. Some people think about baby names for a long time. Some people pick a baby name in pregnancy. Sometimes people wait to pick a baby name until they’ve seen whether their kid looks like an Ashley or not.

You have to think about whether you’re going to use a family name. If you are, you have to decide on whether it sounds too old fashioned, or not. And combining first names with middle names is pretty much the worst. Unless you decide to be radical and your baby doesn’t get a middle name.

I remember being excited for the sonogram that revealed the gender of my baby. I had a feeling he was a boy. So, when it was confirmed, I was so ready to slap a name on him. But, I couldn’t just slap a name on him. I had to come to an agreement on a name. After the gender revealing sonogram, my then husband and I went to a hamburger place, and I was determined to trap him in a booth with my pregnant belly until he came up with a name. He didn’t. And it’s probably for the best. I was not making smart choices that day. I drank a Jolly Rancher flavored soda as just an example of my poor judgement.

Finally, the day arrived. He looked at me and said, “Steven”. And the idea of yelling that for the next 18 years didn’t appeal to me. I felt like we were finally making progress in the naming process, and I had to compromise.

While I loved the quiet and alone moments of being pregnant, I didn’t enjoy the social expectations and norms of being a pregnant woman. Much of my pregnancy felt like a long and terrible day. So when he looked at me and said, “Steven Alexander” I immediately spit back, “Alexander Stefan.” He shrugged and kind of nodded, and we had a name. And I was smug in myself, for I had named my kid after Alexander And The Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day.

Because of who I am as a person, I went out and bought a copy of the book. And I have written notes to my son in the margins throughout his life about his forms of Alexander having a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day. And you know how to verify that I totally named by kid after this book? I can remember that title without Googling it. 😉


How did your kids get their names?

Birth Plans – Top 10 Tips For Finishing The Birth Plan

Keep The Birth Plan Short And Sweet

When you provide your birth plan to your medical team during your birth, it’s easier for them to remember if it is short and sweet. If it’s short like a memo, they can read it over and over again as they access your file. Sometimes shorter documents help get a point across more efficiently than a document that is several pages long. I’m sorry to be the one to tell you that. Personally, I’m one of those moms that would write a dissertation on how I want my birth to go. When writing the birth plan, I like to guide the parents-to-be to think of it like a resume. You want your provider to get the highlights, and to build a conversation with you about your preferences. It actually makes your experience more intimate. But totally give your partner, doula, family, or friends the dissertation version. Your medical provider only handles the medical stuff. The songs you want played during labor is more of a personal thing to give to your right hand support team as opposed to your doctor.

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