Gather The People, Items, Tricks, And Tools for Birth & Baby

Gather Together: An Art Form

The nesting urge that hits late in the third trimester is natural, and we all experience it. But, if you’ll notice, the urge to prepare for baby kicks in the second that you find out you’re going to be a parent. You have to feather your nest.  The urge to gather all of the things now is so normal. Nothing like being in the present, right?

Gathering As A Comfort Measure For Labor

Gathering is a comfort measure for labor because it helps to affirm that you are safe, protected, prepared, and ready to meet baby. And, what’s more, you won’t have to run to Target in the middle of the night during your first week home. If you’re one of those people that can have a baby with just a pack of diapers and some boobs, I admire you. But, I, and most of my clients, are major planners. And we can not sleep at night unless our actual planner is close by and we have a plan in place for plans A-Z.

 

Gather The Birth Team

During pregnancy, birth, and postpartum, we go through many gathering phases. We gather our birth team that consists of our partner, the doctor or midwife, a doula maybe, who we want in the room, and who our photographers are going to be.

 

Baby Has More Clothes Than I Do

We gather baby items. They pile up from Amazon Prime like it’s black Friday. Bassinets, strollers, baby wraps, breast pumps, clothes, baby hats, baby blankets. Who knew someone so little could have so much stuff?! And don’t we all wish we had someone to pay for our stuff like they do?

 

Gathering Preferred Birth + Parenting Preferences

 

We gather together our birth plan. Where do we want to labor? When are we going to go into labor? Do we want an epidural or not? Do we want baby with us or to go to the nursery? Am I going to breastfeed or not? When do I go back to work? What are we going to eat when we go home? (Hint: Our Birth + Parenting classes can help with all of that.)

 

Gather A Postpartum Care Team

 

Then we gather our postpartum team. Who is going to visit? How long are they going to stay? Can we really tell them to handle the dishes and the mail? You pile up all the delivery menus on your night stand. We know the Shipt Shoppers on a first name basis. Yes, please bring me groceries from the internet. Who doesn’t want that? 

 

No one understands the nesting and preparation urge like a woman who has been there. Instead of letting the tasks pile up around you, you can take it slow starting in your first trimester or turn it into a community events. Your family & friends want to help you prepare for baby. Let them take you shopping. Allow them to help paint the nursery or hang decor. Let them make really strange things for the baby. The bigger your tribe, the more prepared and supported you will feel. And always, always accept free food.

 

If you have a pinterest board that you started in early pregnancy, link me in the comments.

Releasing Fear If You Are Afraid Of Going Into Labor And Having A Baby

Content Warning: This post mentions infant loss, grief, death, sexual abuse/trauma. 

Fear About Labor Is Normal

If you have some fear surrounding labor and the birth of your baby, you are normal. This is all so normal. You are programmed biologically to have some fear. Your hormones are going to kick up a natural fight or flight response when you enter transition. You are going to be minutes away from meeting your new baby, and your brain just wants to know that everything is safe and going well. The after birth hormonal shakes that the majority of women experience immediately postpartum are from this flight or fight hormonal response. Your body just went through a marathon that took all of your physical, emotional, and mental strength and fortitude!

Society Doesn’t Help Lessen Birth Fear

Besides a documentary or YouTube video, have you ever seen a peaceful looking birth in a movie? The movies depict labor has a screaming fit of misery. And when you try to talk about your birth fear, it seems like most people just feed it and tell you their birth horror stories. It’s very rare to hear someone say, “I was scared, too. It was okay. Want to hold my squishy baby?”

Fear of Birth Has Many Causes

Your fears relating to the birth of your baby are very natural. As mentioned above, it could be a hormonal response. It could be because you’ve never birthed a baby before. You’re not sure what is going to happen. You doubt you can do it. (You can totally do it!)

Welcoming a new baby into your life is a major change.

It’s so different compared to what life was like before. You are going to be a parent. This realization can trigger you in many ways. You may start to really think about your childhood. Having shitty parents can make you afraid of yourself as a parent. You may be experiencing grief from a traumatic moment in the past. You may have experienced sexual abuse/trauma. Or grief over the passing of a loved one. Maybe this baby is your rainbow baby, and you’re so scared.  It could be a fear that your body isn’t strong, wide, or supple enough. You could be afraid of medical emergencies. All of these thoughts and feelings are valid.

What Is A Fear Release?

A fear release is a track that many of my Hypnobabies clients listen to in order to help release some of the fears that they have. One of the most important aspects of letting go of fear during your birth is to not be in environments that exacerbate your fear. And I’m sorry that I mentioned real triggers above. I want you to know that I understand those triggers and how valid they are. Here is an example of a fear release MP3 for purchase.

What Can I Do To Release My Fears?

Being real with your fears is the absolute best thing you can do to process them. Be authentic to you. Please don’t hide behind your fears or try to act braver or more courageous than you feel in the moment.

Talking about your fears with people you trust can help you. If your fears center around your body, make sure to tell your midwife or OB/GYN that specific medical tasks trigger you. Let people know if you are sensitive to touch. Or if you have trigger words. Be honest with your partner about how you feel and communicate ways that they can help you in the moment.

It may help to do a rehearsal of sorts where you say, “When I do X, I need you to help me by doing Y.” Communicating with our partners and birth team help us to know that if things get a little too real for us, someone is there who understands and will have our backs.

Additionally, women want to know and feel that they have power and control over their birth experience. They want to know that they did the work necessary to bring their baby into their arms. They don’t want to feel like the birth of their children is just something that happened to them without their control or consent.

When we, as women, feel prolonged fear in labor, it’s easy for our minds and bodies to run away. Which, in hindsight, makes it harder in the future to really connect with our experiences of birth.

It’s important to walk away from the birth of our children feeling empowered.

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Environment: Preparing Your Birth Space

Your Birth Environment

The environment where you birth and meet your baby is very important. You are a mammal. Mammals love to be in a safe place away from predators so that they can focus on their birth and bringing their babies into the world. We know that the chances of a hawk swooping out of the ceiling are pretty slim. But our brains and hormones are preconditioned to have a flight or fight response as we birth our children.  The truth is that the only environment that feels like home to us is literally our home. And while home birth is the choice for many women, birth centers and hospitals are the more common choice. And there’s nothing wrong with any of these options.

With three options in mind, the hospital is the one where it is hardest to feel comfortable and safe. And while hospitals are safe for medical reasons, they are the places that least feel like home due to the lighting, the smells, and the other common associations with hospitals.

I’m going to talk about some of the easiest things you can do to make your birth environment feel more like home.

Lights Down Low

Lighting is everything. When you wind down from a long day and prepare to sleep at home, you dim or turn out all of the lights. Being in a dark room makes us feel sort of cocooned. At home, you can light candles for some ambiance. In a birth center or hospital setting, your midwife really does want to see when it is time for your baby to be born, but you can close the blinds, dim the lights, or use battery powered candles. Bright overhead lights are harsh. And it’s hard for women to feel like they can relax or nod off to sleep during contractions if it’s always looking like noon in their room. For longer labors, it will also be hard to keep with a circadian rhythm if it is bright all of the time, even at night.

 

Necessary People Only, Thanks

If you’ve had a baby before, you know that the second you put out the bat call that labor has begun, everyone starts to come out of the woodwork. And they want to be there with you, in your room.

Fortunately, most hospitals have a limit of people allowed in the room. But the people that want to be with you will circulate through your room constantly. Your family. Your friends. People you met once at Wal-Mart.  Okay, so that last one was a stretch. Babies are exciting. Unfortunately, it gives you the feeling of constantly being watched, pressure to perform, and a constant rotation of change.

The more constant the room and the people and the environment are, the easier it is to find a labor vibe. The people in your room should be important. You should love them. They make you feel safe. You feel like you need them, or will need them. You can’t imagine having a baby without them. Anyone else can go eat Taco Bell in the waiting room. And it’s okay for you to tell them that.

Quiet, Please

The mother always knows when she’s in the middle of a contraction. But it’s often hard for other people to tell. People naturally imagine that contractions are a loud event. But most women are quiet during a contraction up until transition.

Sometimes, when a woman is working her way through a contraction, she has gone to a quiet internal place. She is coping and working. And she is doing it well.

But when someone starts talking to her during a contraction, it takes away all of her positive focus. It makes it harder for her to process the sensations, and possible pain, of her contractions. The goal of anyone in the labor room during a contraction is to to either be silent, or to focus all of their attention or helping her through the contraction. The pause between contractions is when you make her laugh as much as you possibly can. If you’re not sure whether what you’re doing or saying is helping her, ask her in between contractions, not during.

Get Your Garlic Breath Away From Me

Women are super sensitive to smell during pregnancy, labor, and postpartum. It’s like a super power. Scents that didn’t annoy them before now make their skin crawl. They will literally fight you. Some of the strongest smells are coffee, garlic, and things that smell gross. Fart near a pregnant woman and she might kick you out. Not to mention, due to hygiene protocol in the hospitals, they always smell weird clean. You know what I’m saying? They look and smell kind of sterile. And our homes or mama caves are not exactly that level of sterile. You can bring it scents that she likes if you ensure no one in the room (including the nurses and doctors) are allergic to it.

But you know how she once told you she wanted a grilled chicken sandwich from Chick-Fil-A, but then cried when you gave it to her because it wasn’t chicken nuggets? Smells are like that, too. She may love lavender one second, and hate it the next. A lot of families use essential oils. If your family uses them, and you know you enjoy them and aren’t sensitive to them, you can put them on cotton rounds in a zip-loc bag. She can smell the smell when she wants to. And throw it out of the room with violence if she suddenly hates it.

Ditch The Hospital Gown

Many hospitals will allow you to ditch the hospital gown in favor of your own clothes or your own gown so long as they can access everything that they need to. It would be pretty hard to help deliver your baby if you were wearing pants. The hospital gown just feels strange. You may feel more comfortable in a gown designed for labor. They’re neat, and usually also unfasten at the top for breastfeeding (if you’re going to do that).

Bring The Beat

If you’ve ever turned on the television with music channels in the hospital, you know they’re playing rain forest sounds. Which is delightful, if that’s your jam. But if your jam is Eminem or Willy Nelson, bring that. Many of my clients utilize hypnobabies or hypnobirthing and bring their own tracks with them. Chances are really good that whatever you listen to when you wash your dishes is really going to help you through labor. The act of listening to a consistent pleasant noise that is external helps the mother not focus so much on the sensations that are going on inside of her body. Win.

Bring Comforts From Home

I already talked about how hospitals look and smell, but now we get to talk about the way they feel. The linens are thin, and not comfortable. And it is cold in there. Because germs like heat. So let’s freeze them. But people like warmth. It’s okay to bring a fuzzy blanket from home, and comfortable pillows. My best advice for bringing pillows from home is to put a colored pillow case on them so you can tell them apart from the ones in the hospital. Because even with your own pillows, you were also use the hospital pillows. Pillows are life. When you spend 24+ hours in a hospital, it does feel weird to be wearing shoes all the time. You can bring your own (non-slip) socks from home, or your house shoes/slippers.

 

Focal Points

It’s nice to have small objects from home. Some women like to bring a baby outfit and lay it out in the open. They visualize birthing the baby and putting the baby in the outfit. It helps make the baby more real for both of the parents. Or people bring a picture of a deceased relative or person who can’t be with them. Or a religious symbol that helps them feel safe, loved, and protected. A focal point can literally be anything.

 

Read more about the A-Z’s of Comfort Measures For Labor At the Houston Central Doulas Blog

 

Doula: Your Coach For Game Day

A Doula Is Worth The Moolah!

A doula is a professional that supports you during pregnancy and labor. And the right doula will even support you during the first several weeks of life with your new baby. I can’t talk to you about doulas as a whole, since I don’t represent them. What I can do is tell you about me as a doula.

Even if I were not a doula, I would hire a doula for the births of my children. In fact, processing the birth of my son is what made me even learn what a doula was. I thought about all of the things I wanted from the birth (and didn’t have). I started learning more about birth. And the word “Doula” popped up in Google long before doulas were cool.

In my last blog post, Houston Birth + Parenting Classes, I mentioned how our certified childbirth educators come straight to your home on your schedule to help teach and guide you about birth and parenting. What if you could have a support person (doula) in the room and a childbirth educator wrapped up in the same person? That’s me. Having me in the room with you is like having someone there who is supporting you through the live play by plays and helping to keep you up to speed on what is happening and how to roll with it.

 

Birth Doulas

A birth doula is someone who helps you navigate the entirety of your labor and birth with ease and confidence – except for the medical aspects. While a midwife or OB/GYN focuses on the physical health of you and your baby, the doula focuses on providing you with information about the endless sea of options presented to you, encourages you in the methods that are right for you, and makes sure that your head and heart in a good place.

A doula is like having a female tribe with you as you labor.

It’s like having your mom or your best friend there. But we don’t have an opinion or too much of an emotional attachment to you. We care about you and want you to be happy, but we aren’t going to influence your decisions.

The reason that it feels like you have a tribe supporting you is because we have experience with dozens of births. Every woman, birth, body, and baby is unique. We have seen it all. And are fully prepared and qualified to support you no matter what.

And we will do so calmly and attentively. Our birth doulas are very familiar with pregnancy, birth, infant feeding methods, and parenting. We’re fully prepared to be an ear during pregnancy, an enthusiastic coach during birth, help you get situated with breast or bottle feeding, and figure out a postpartum plan for ensuring that you get off to an amazing start with your new tiny human and your changed family dynamic.

Our Birth Doula Services. 

Postpartum Doulas

A postpartum doula kicks in once you’ve kicked your baby out of your uterus. A postpartum doula can assist you from your very first night home with baby. Our postpartum doulas assist with questions relating to being comfortable during postpartum recovery. (*ahem* Padsicles.) We can help you feed your baby. We know what’s normal, and what’s not. And it’s totally okay to not be normal. We can help you get a good latch, or find the right bottle. We’ll help take the gross diapers to the trash or the laundry. We will refill your cup – literally and emotionally. We’ll make sure you’ve eaten. We’ will encourage you to nap. We’ll take care of your baby while you shower. You can cry in front of us for no reason and we won’t judge you. We’ll help with light housework.

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Houston Birth + Parenting Classes

Birth + Parenting Classes

You’re looking for  birth + parenting classes in Houston. You have ideas of what pregnancy, birth, and caring for a newborn is like. You have a plan in mind of how you want to birth and parent your baby.

But you still have questions. This is a life-changing event, and you want to talk to a baby event planner.

You have dreams, nursery decor, fears, and anxieties. Is your pregnancy normal? Is your birth plan possible? (Read: 10 Tips For Finishing Your Birth Plan).

You feel overwhelmed by your choices. There’s a pile of baby books on your night stand. You don’t know whether you want to have an epidural or not. You have no idea if you want to breastfeed or formula feed.

All that you know is that you want all the information possible. Preferably in a shorter version than a 300 page book. You want birth + parenting classes that fit your preferences, your budget, your time.

And if you can do it in your pajamas, that’s even better.

We have you covered.

What You Can Expect From Our Houston Birth And Parenting Classes

  • comfort measures for labor: what you can do for yourself and what to pack
  • position changes that help you get comfortable, move around, or reduce pain sensations
  • non-judgmental support of your preferred methods of birth + parenting
  • education and support as you explore your options and learn more about all of the jargon associated with birth
  • the physiological aspects of birth: what happens, when it happens, why it is happening, how it feels, and what to do about it
  • helping to teach partners how to be birth support people for labor with hands on techniques, practice, and support reinforcement
  • Know labor is beginning, when to move to the birth location, and what to pack
  • Time contractions, or not,  and knowing whether this is  ” the real thing”
  • Know when in pregnancy or labor you should call your medical team
  • Assistance with forming an idea of your birth plan and what should go on it
  • newborn care: what they do, when to do it, and why they’re doing it. Help with understanding feeding, bathing, sleep, and basic newborn care
  • How to make a household action plan to get through the postpartum period with clean clothes, rest, and food
  • Answers to all your pressing questions explained in terms real people understand
  • And so, so much more.

 

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The Benefits of Private Birth Classes

 

Birth Ball: Tool For Pregnancy, Labor, And Postpartum

What Is A Birth Ball?

Once upon a time you bought a giant exercise ball. And it has lived in your garage ever since. Or you know a guy or gal that has one. That’s a birth ball. A birth ball is a giant inflatable ball. Exercise balls can be purchased at most big chain retailers. Target, Wal-Mart, Amazon, and fitness stores are good examples. The good rule of thumb to follow for purchasing a birth ball is that your knees are in line with your hips when you sit on it. And your feet are flat on the floor. Here’s a hack: Blow it up with an electronic pump, and not the sad air pump that comes with it.

Utilizing A Birth Ball In Pregnancy

Birthing your baby is one of the most intense core exercises that you’ll ever do. Likewise, pregnancy affects your center of balance and makes your body feel heavier. If you are doing sedentary activities like working at a desk, you can replace your desk chair with a birth ball. It will help you work on balance and flexibility. And it’s very soothing to be able to rock, wiggle, and squirm during pregnancy. Using a birth ball in pregnancy is kind of like practicing a squat. Except gravity is your friend and not your enemy because you are supported. Even if you don’t squat for fun on a regular basis, you may find yourself intuitively squatting at some point in labor because your body is telling you to.

How To Use A Birth Ball In Labor

However you get a birth ball into your labor room is going to be an interesting adventure. Many hospitals (especially in urban areas in Texas) have birth balls and peanut balls in the hospital. Some hospitals even have stands to keep the birth balls from moving.

You can bring your own from home. You can bring it already inflated. (Just rent a wagon, okay? ;)) Or you can bring it deflated in a tote bag with a pump and inflate it ASAP when you get there. Many birth centers already have these balls as well. And if you’re birthing at home, it’s already there and ready to go!

Here is a video with examples of birth ball positions for labor.

 

Labor Positions With A Birth Ball

 

You can place the birth ball on a flat surface. (Cover it with a sheet if your water has already broken, or if the ball has been used by someone else before).

You can rock your hips in circles on the birth ball similar to the motion of using a hoola hoop. Or bounce up and down with your knees spread pretty far apart. You can keep your feet spread apart and lunge from side to side. Birth balls are fun.

The only position you wouldn’t want to do is, for a lack of a better word, a grinding motion. What got the baby in will not get the baby out in this instance. A forward and backing rocking will not help to open your pelvis like the other positions you can do on a birth ball.

This simulation of a squat that the birth ball provides will help open your pelvis by up to 30%. Which is 30% more space for baby to engage their stubborn head and start their descent to be born.

 

You can also utilize the birth and ball in hands and knees positions. You can get onto your knees and learn your head and forearms over the birth ball to help yourself rock back and forth. In this position, still keep your knees apart to create pelvic space. It’s also okay to rock forward and backward in this position since it isn’t closing your pelvis. (But if you find a way to do this position with your pelvis AND your arms, be sure to leave me a comment. Pics, or it didn’t happen.)

Calming A Baby With A Birth Ball

You were soothed by the use of a birth ball during your pregnancy and labor. Because who doesn’t like to rock and roll around? Well, your baby is going to love it, too. And it helps you to keep your motion constant. It will also lessen joint pain and stress on your end. Babies love rocking motions. (It’s part of the 5s for getting babies to sleep, after all.)

Despite babies loving rocking motions, they like consistent motion. A birth ball helps you to bounce or rock in the same pattern over and over again. The repetitive constant motion soothes your baby instead of making their startle reflex go into over drive. If you’ve rocked and carried a baby around before, you just how exhausting it is to do that for hours and hours on repeat. Because the birth ball is bouncy, it helps to support you and not over extend yourself too much.

 

Learn more about our  birth doula services and our private in-home Houston  birth + parenting classes. 

Acupressure And Acupuncture For Pregnancy, Birth & Postpartum

What Is Acupuncture?

Acupuncture originated in ancient China. It is a system of alternative healing that involves puncturing the skin with small needles to relieve medical, mental, and emotional illness and struggles. It is believed to restore balance, health, and well-being. Scientists argue that acupuncture is beneficial because of a neurological impact where the needles are inserted into areas of nerves and help to increase blood flow and nerve stimulation.

The reason that we mention acupuncture here along with our blog about acupressure is because acupuncture and acupressure work in similar ways. However, in order to receive acupuncture, you must go to a licensed acupuncturist that has a background in medicine. Acupressure is something that you can perform on yourself with enough research. There are many acupuncturists in Houston. One of the most common reasons that a woman would go to an acupuncturist during pregnancy is due to the nausea. (Thanks hormones. Blame the hormones for everything during pregnancy.)

What Is Acupressure?

Acupressure is a less invasive form of acupuncture. Acupuncture utilizes small needles. Acupressure is based on pressure exerted through less invasive means. You can utilize your hands similar to how a trigger point massage would feel. You can use the thumbs of your hands to help you apply pressure. Massage therapists are also familiar with many acupressure points.

Acupressure During Pregnancy

Experiencing morning sickness? (Aren’t we all?) There are over the counter forms of relief that involve acupressure. Many women elect to purchase sea bands which are bracelet like items that apply pressure to the wrist on an acupressure point to help lessen the effects of morning sickness or motion sickness.

Acupressure During Labor

The most common reasons women start to consider acupressure during labor is because they are willing to try anything to help labor start naturally on its own before an induction takes place. One of the best ways to experience acupressure in a gentle way is to get a foot massage at or near your due date. My clients love to get deep foot massages during a pedicure when they feel that their labor is beginning. The pleasant pain of a foot massage helps them take their focus away from the beginning of their contractions and helps them to relax.

 

Sacral Pressure During Labor

Sacral pressure during labor is very similar to acupressure. During the descent of the baby into the pelvis, the internal pressure of the baby’s head causes a woman to feel a lot of uncomfortable sensations in her back and pelvis. By applying pressure with a tennis ball or the fist of your hand, you can provide counter pressure to help relieve her discomfort. But, once you start, she’s going to beg you not to ever stop. Sacral counter pressure is one of the most valued physical comfort measures to a woman in labor. And you can accomplish it if she is laying on her side; or in a hands and knees position that allows you access to her sacrum. Here is an image that shows you the location of the sacrum. 

Gate Control Theory For Pain Management

One of the reasons that the actual physical sensation of acupressure is helpful (similar to “breaking the popsicle” hand massage you will learn in our birth + parenting class) is because of Gate Control Theory. Which is the same theory we talk about when I hook you up to one of our TENs machines in labor and you thank me for the “buzz buzz friend”. The sensation of pain that your brain feels first is the one that you are going to most focus on. Your brain can only process one intense feeling of pain at a time. (Example: You have a toothache. You stub your toe. Your bad words and attention leave your tooth and go to your toe.)

 Acupressure After You Have A Baby

The anecdotal benefits of acupressure after you have a baby are that it helps postpartum depression, lactation, mastitis, back pain, hip pain, sciatica, urinary incontinence, tiredness and exhaustion.

We all know that growing and birthing tiny humans affects our musculoskeletal system. Due to relaxin (a hormone that loosens our bodies in preparation for labor), our hips begin to loosen and open to aid us. And many woman complain about sciatica during pregnancy due to the weight of the baby on the sciatic nerve. A combination of chiropractic, acupressure, and massage care postpartum can rock your world. It may help with pain relief in a natural and less invasive way.

Acupressure and massage are toolkit items that you can try if nothing else is helping. If you are experiencing postpartum depression, lactation issues, or any of the other issues listed above, there are more scientific minded professionals to seek help from. For example, if you are experiencing postpartum depression. It is more than okay to see a therapist, take medication, do acupressure, or whatever is necessary to help you feel better.

 

There are many resources online to help educate you about the benefits of acupressure. They will show you techniques to try based on where you are in your pregnancy, birth, and postpartum journey.

Video Games – If Mom-ing Were A Video Game, I’d Be…

Video Games Are Taking Over Our Lives

If a video game were to literally take over your life, what would it be called? What are the main features? How do you win the video game? Is there a video game that already resembles your life?

The Sims Is My Video Game

I get on this kick occasionally where I must play the Sims for a whole weekend. Like, sacrifice sleep and food just to play The Sims. My husband doesn’t get it. He thinks it’s like our son with Minecraft. What he doesn’t understand is the moms in The Sims just get my life.

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Travel – My Best Hack For Traveling With Kids

Travel Is Gonna Go Down!

You made the decision to travel with your kid(s). And you’re dreading it. Because travel with kids is a little bit crazy. Especially to those of us who love planning, organized packing, and things going according to plan. Traveling with kids kinda changes the name of the game. If you aren’t a planner by nature, chances are good that you used to be one of those people who would throw things in a carry-on bag and wing it with little thought. You figured if you needed an item later, you can just replace it at Target later. But, now, as a parent, if Bugsy the Stuffed Elephant doesn’t make it on that airplane, your entire week is going down the toilet.

 

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My Best Advice For The Parent NOT Birthing The Baby

Your Partner Is Going To Give Birth To Your Baby

This  birth advice applies to anyone regardless of gender if someone else is birthing a baby that you’re going to raise. So, the baby is coming. The big day is fast approaching. We all know what the big day is. Your baby’s birthday is soon!

Somehow, You’ve Got An Invite to L&D

Whether you’re the dad to be, the intended parents with a surrogate, or part of a same sex relationship, you’re got a front row seat to the birth of your baby. You’re important. As an important part of The Team, you’ve got a big role to play. And it’s probably making you anxious.

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